This book explains the difference between many of the things we confuse, such as self-flagellation and a vigilant conscience, submission to people and cooperation, self-confidence and arrogance, respect for authority and fear of it, and other concepts. We will find a revealing explanation of the reason for our emotions. Just as we thought that the actions of others were the cause of our emotions, this book reveals that our unmet needs are the fundamental cause of feelings and emotions. Our needs are our responsibility, so we liberate others from being the cause of our pain, and we liberate ourselves from being the cause of others' pain. This clarification of the limits of each individual's responsibility for the pain and harm of others is a central idea in the compassion approach. It is a compass we can follow to understand and monitor our own feelings, thoughts, actions, and needs, as well as those of others. We find ourselves holding a lamp that illuminates the path of our relationships in practical life and at the level of mental health.