“I've always been fascinated by attachment theory, which beautifully explains how pivotal early events color all of life. Leslie Becker-Phillips helps us understand the role anxious attachment plays in our current relationships and what we can do to heal this significant early wound. I highly recommend this book!” —Eric Maisel, PhD, author of Rethinking Depression and The Van Gogh Blues “Based on the latest scientific research and written in engaging, accessible language, this book will help you understand why you feel insecure in your relationships and help you heal so you can have healthier relationships with others and, perhaps most importantly, with yourself.” - Kristin Neff, Ph.D., author of Self-Compassion "This wonderful, easy-to-use handbook is about healthy relationships, both with others and with ourselves. Leslie Becker-Phillips guides us clearly and encouragingly, showing us how to be open to others while also being mindful of our own boundaries, so that true love can occur." - David Richo, author of How to Be an Adult in Love