Raising the Shy Child

Author: Gregory B. Markway, Barbara G. Markway

Many people do not realize that physical discomfort can actually accompany social anxiety. For example, someone might experience a panic attack in a social situation, feeling intense and acute fear and anxiety, with some or all of the following symptoms: shortness of breath, a feeling of discomfort or pain in the chest, rapid heartbeat, numbness or tingling, nausea, diarrhea, dizziness, trembling, and sweating. Panic attacks usually come on very quickly, peaking within five to twenty minutes before subsiding. It is not common for individuals to report that their panic attacks last much longer, but it is possible for the lingering effects of the attack, rather than the attack itself, such as a persistent feeling of anxiety and heightened awareness of physical sensations, to continue. Adolescents are more susceptible to panic attacks compared to young children. In fact, panic attacks in young children are uncommon. Instead, young children experiencing social anxiety often complain of headaches and stomach aches, although they may also experience other physical symptoms. Regardless of the specific physical symptoms your child experiences, anxiety is never pleasant. Having your body in a constant state of alert has negative effects and can lead to decreased energy, muscle tension, irritability, and sleep disturbances. Also, keep in mind that physical symptoms are usually real. Many parents believe their children are simply making excuses, and while it is possible they occasionally do, it is more likely that these children are genuinely experiencing bothersome physical symptoms.